What are some commonly used pronouns?

She, her, hers and he, him, his are the most commonly used pronouns. Some people call these “female/feminine” and “male/masculine” pronouns, but some choose not to use these labels because they do not identify as female/feminine, male/masculine, or for political reasons.

A gender-neutral or gender-inclusive pronoun is a pronoun that is not gender-specific. Some languages, including English, do not have gender-neutral or third gender pronouns and instead “he/his” and “she/hers” are typically used when referring to a generic individual in the third person. People who are limited by languages that do not include gender-neutral pronouns have attempted to create them, in the interest of greater equality.  

Some examples of gender-inclusive/gender-neutral pronouns that have been added to the English language and how to use them grammatically:


Here are the most commonly heard gender-inclusive/gender-neutral pronouns:

  • They, them, theirs (Alex ate their food because they were hungry.) This is a pretty common gender-neutral pronoun…. And yes, it can in fact be used in the singular.
  • Ze, hir (Quinn ate hir food because zewas hungry.)
    • Ze is pronounced like “zee” and can also be spelled zie or xe, and replaces she/he/they. Hir is pronounced like “here” and replaces her/hers/him/his/they/theirs.

 Name Preference

  • Just my name please! (Phoenix ate Phoenix’s food because Phoenix was hungry.) Some people prefer to not use pronouns, and would like their names to be used instead.